Freed to Serve

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You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[a]; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other (Galatians 5:13–15).

If we are free, why should we have to serve anyone?

This question masks a common misunderstanding of human destiny. Human destiny is not to live as isolated individuals. It is to live as a community that works together to accomplish amazing things, blesses everyone, and glorifies God. This is what we were made for, and this is how we flourish.

On the other hand, if we are not free, then we cannot develop our potential. We cannot serve other people well or freely. Coercion is not conducive to cooperation.

So, there is irony here. We have to become free in order to be able to serve. Paul expressed this irony in 1 Cor. 9: “Though I am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible” (1 Cor. 9:19).

It is only when we are free that we can truly serve. It is only when we serve that we can build a community that thrives rather than destroys. So, how do we use our freedom to humbly serve one another in love? Continue reading “Freed to Serve”

Community Building: Humble Respect (1 Peter 2:11-17)

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In Seattle’s so-called autonomous zone, they claim they have eliminated the need for cops. Looking closer, you find that they have what they call “sentinels.” These are people, sometimes armed, who enforce basic rules and try to keep order. So, whatever they say, they have replaced the cops with . . . their own cops.

House churches are similar. They say that they are just informal gatherings. However, I’ve always found that one person becomes the de facto leader or pastor. They are just churches meeting in a house, whatever they think of themselves. They haven’t escaped structure or organization or being an institution. They simply emphasize meeting in homes.

Why do I bring this up? Here’s my point. All communities will have authority structures and hierarchy. Continue reading “Community Building: Humble Respect (1 Peter 2:11-17)”

My Doctor of Ministry Experience

A few weeks ago, I was talking to some friends about completing my Doctor of Ministry degree from Reformed Theological Seminary (RTS). I realized that with graduation ceremonies cancelled, I had very little to mark this milestone. It gave me great sympathy for the hundreds of thousands who have missed out on a variety of milestones this year, including graduation.

Last week, my wife and church helped me celebrate that milestone. This fulfilled my desire to have a marker for this transition in my life, but there’s one more thing I want to do. I want to write a summary of my experience in the Doctor of Ministry program at RTS.

My thoughts and prayers about entering the Doctor of Ministry program began in 2014 at a leadership conference. It was there that I really felt God leading me to pursue this degree as a next step in my personal growth.

The problem was that in the summer of 2014, I was living in Western South Dakota, a long way from schools that offered the program. But in January 2015, I moved to Tennessee to serve as Pastor of Evergreen Presbyterian Church. About five months after I moved to Tennessee, I got an email about the Doctor of Ministry degree from Reformed Theological Seminary (RTS). I looked over the program and thought that it would be a good one for me. The four core courses were Leadership, Applied Theology, Church Growth and Revitalization, and Spirituality in Ministry. In addition, the degree required four electives and a project or thesis. I applied and was accepted to the program in May 2015. RTS has multiple campuses. I chose the Atlanta campus because of its proximity and because a friend of mine lived there with whom I could stay for free.

My first class was in July: “Church Growth and Revitalization” with Dr. Tom Wood of Church Multiplication Ministries. Prior to each class in the program, the student had to read 2,000 pages of assigned books. I thought I read quite a bit before, but I realized that I hadn’t read very much! Reading 2,000 pages in a month is a lot! The week before the class started, I was reading all day long for a week trying to get everything done before the class started.

The class was outstanding. I learned so many things from the books, the lectures, and my time with Dr. Wood. I also learned a lot from the two papers that I wrote. My key takeaway was that church ministry had to be oriented outwards. Out of this class arose the idea for my church’s current mission statement:

Love. Nurture. Send. Each member of the Evergreen family, rooted and grounded in the love of God in Jesus Christ, will seek to love and welcome all whom God brings our way; nurture them in the truths of the Gospel, practical wisdom, and use of their gifts; and send them out to love their families, neighborhoods, and communities, joining what God is already doing in bringing redemption and restoration to the Sevier County area and beyond. Love. Nurture. Send.

The italicized part of this statement in particular was the result of this class. I would not have suggested this emphasis without it.

After this first class, I was extremely enthused about the program. Then, I got the news. RTS was changing the curriculum. They would no longer require the four core classes that were a large part of my entering this program. Instead, they would have two tracks: expository preaching and Reformed theology in ministry. They also closed the D.Min. programs on all campuses except Charlotte and Orlando. This meant that I was transferring to the Charlotte campus. All of this required a lot of mental adjustment on my part, but I am glad that I stuck with it. One positive part of the change was that they gave those students who had already begun a great deal of flexibility in how they completed the program.

After completing my first class, I decided that God was leading me to take classes in Orlando . . . in January! I decided to take two classes back to back. My time in Orlando was simply amazing. I stayed at Canterbury Retreat and Conference Center about 2 miles from the campus. This was such a peaceful place for contemplation. The whole staff was so hospitable and glad to have everyone there. The retreat area is on a small lake with a lovely walking trail around it. Every day I would walk around the lake and reflect on the day’s teaching. I could not have had a better place to be and experience those classes.

The two classes I took in January 2016 were Applied Theology with Dr. Steve Childers and Christ-Centered Preaching with Dr. Bryan Chapell. The first class broke a lot of new ground for me. The second was more of a reminder of a lot of key points of preaching that were worth reviewing and reflecting upon again, though with some new things, too. In both cases, I was happy to be a part of these classes and get to know the students.

In Applied Theology, I read two works by Richard Lovelace, Dynamics of Spiritual Life and Renewal as a Way of Life. These two books offer a view of life that emphasizes piety and a Protestant theology of revival and renewal that manifests itself in all areas of life. I found these books extremely helpful. Lovelace also got me thinking for the first time about American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr. Lovelace writes:

Kierkegaard, Reinhold Nieburh, and Tillich are not wrong, however, in suggesting that anxiety is at the root of much sinful behavior, since the unconscious awareness of our independence from God and unrelieved consciousness of guilt create a profound insecurity in the unbeliever or the Christian who is not walking in the light. This insecurity generates a kind of compensatory egoism, self-oriented but somewhat different than serious pride. Thus much of what is called pride is actually not godlike self-admiration, but masked inferiority, insecurity, and deep self-loathing (Dynamics of Spiritual Life, 88, emphasis his).

I was so fascinated by the idea of seeing anxiety as being the occasion of sin that I wrote a paper on it which was eventually published in the Mid-America Journal of Theology. You can read it here. I would also return to Niebuhr later in the program.

In July 2016, I took my only class at the Charlotte campus, the campus at which I was enrolled. The class was Preaching from the Gospels with Dr. Robert Cara. While this class was also more of a review, I enjoyed being part of it. I especially appreciated how Dr. Cara took a personal interest in us. He invited all of us to go out to lunch each day, and we had a great time interacting with him. I also had a great evening riding roller coasters at Carowinds.

For me, the most important class I took was in Pastoral Counseling. I took this class in January and February 2017 with Dr. Jim Coffield. Once again, I returned to Canterbury Retreat Center. Dr. Coffield basically went through a variety of counseling issues that we face as Pastors and gave us advice for dealing with them. Much of this was new to me and extremely practical. He also exposed us to a variety of counseling situations. He gave us opportunities to do counseling, receive counseling, and interact in a small group with direction from one of his counseling students. This really helped add a new dimension to my ministry, and it gave me a variety of ideas for new reading that eventually led to my doctoral project.

Because of the change in the program after my first class, RTS gave me (and other students who enrolled under the older organization of the D.Min. program) the flexibility to to do two directed (i.e., independent) studies. This amounted to 3,000 pages of reading with a lengthy paper under the direction of an advisor. My first directed study was on the theology of Reinhold Niebuhr. My advisor was Dr. Bruce Baugus of RTS Jackson. We were able to meet in person when I attended a Pastor’s conference in Jackson, MS (at Twin Lakes Conference Center, pictured). He was extremely helpful and encouraging. I thoroughly enjoyed reading works on and about Niebuhr and ended up doing a paper on Niebuhr’s view of the problem of racism (read it here).

The second directed study was in counseling issues. My class with Dr. Coffield had given me a thirst to study these issues at greater depth. I really appreciate my advisor for this class, Dr. Jim Newheiser of the Charlotte campus. Even though we had very different views on Christian counseling, he was gracious and helpful, inviting me to hear a different perspective while also encouraging my development. When I took this class, I was wavering between doing my Doctoral Project on counseling or Niebuhr. After this class, I was convinced to go in the counseling direction.

My final class was actually a preparation for the doctoral project, so it too was an independent study. One of my regrets is that I didn’t get an opportunity to take more classes where I could interact with other students and a professor on campus. I hope to remedy that in the future because all graduates are allowed to audit D.Min. courses for free. I plan to take them up on this! At any rate, I took the class. This class was designed to help students complete the whole program. The outcome was a proposal for the D.Min. project. My proposal was to take the insights of family systems therapy and apply them to ministry. This proposal was accepted.

I have to admit that when I began my project I was not quite sure what I was doing. My first stab at it was a failure. My advisor, Dr. Don Fortson, graciously pointed this out, but he encouraged me to keep going and gave me some ideas. Eventually, I realized that I had to narrow my topic. I took one topic from family systems therapy and applied it to ministry (differentiation of self, if you’re interested!). This focus helped me complete the project. I really began this work in earnest in January of 2019. Once I had clarity, I was able to move through putting together this paper. Thanks to some time off given by my elders, by January 2020, I sent my paper to a friend for proof-reading. This was completed on a sabbatical at a condo in Myrtle Beach (view pictured). In February 2020, I sent in the rough draft to Dr. Fortson. On March 13th, the last day the campus was open before the COVID-19 lockdowns, I went to the Charlotte campus for my oral defense of the project. This was sustained. After that, I had to make some corrections to get it to a place that was ready for a final printing. By May, this was complete (you can read my project here). I was set to graduate.

I had originally planned to graduate on Saturday morning, May 23rd. Because of COVID-19, the graduation ceremony was cancelled. However, the school did a good job of making it special. They sent the graduates a box of gifts that included (for me) letters of congratulations from Dr. Fortson, my advisor; Rev. Ken McMullen, my faculty reader; and Dr. Michael Kruger, the president of the campus. On Sunday, May 31st, the church honored me and other graduates from our church for our accomplishments. It was a great day.

In the summer of 2014, I felt God leading me to the D.Min. I now can see why. My life has been immeasurably enriched by the reading and writing I did as well as by the interaction with fellow students and professors. It was a long journey, but I loved every minute of it (except perhaps the hours of revising footnotes!). I am better equipped to interact with the world and to be a better human, husband, father, friend, pastor, and Christian because of the program. I am thankful to God for leading me in this direction and for all the support He gave me through my wife, friends, elders from our church, and the professors and fellow students at RTS.

A Christian Response to Two Very Scary Things

Right now, we are dealing two interrelated and very scary things: a deadly disease and an economic depression. Both are extremely scary, and both are real threats.

How do we as Christians respond to these two very scary things? We can think of this on two different levels. How do we respond in a godly way to the scary things? And how do we respond to the scared people?

The answer to the first is courage, and you can read a summary of what courage means in this situation here.

The second question is more difficult. Here’s why. When we are scared, we have laser focus on the thing that scares us. We also want others to focus on what scares us. This helps make us feel safer.

When there are two scary things, it’s hard to focus on both and easy to want to focus on one or the other. Different people feel more scared about one or the other of the scary things and to different degrees. There is a spectrum of fear or concern on one side or the other. When someone doesn’t focus on the scary thing we’re focused on, it’s easy to feel threatened. This can lead to anger, accusations, and polarization.

So, how should we as Christians respond in this very difficult situation? Let me suggest four things: listening, humility, patience, and service.

1. Listening. The Lord commands us to do this, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19) This means that when we see someone who is scared, we should seek first to understand and then to be understood.

But it means more. It means we should listen not only to people. We need to be open to reality and the best sources of information wherever they may lead us. That is what it means to be a good listener in a more profound sense.

Let me give you an example. I am one who has been concerned about COVID-19 and has even said that the lockdowns are helpful. However, various people have brought Sweden to my attention because they are the one country in Europe that is trying to take some precautions but not asking people to shelter in place. Life is going on (with some qualifications). Some predict that the results will be an historic massacre. Maybe they are right. So far, we have not seen it. If Sweden does as good or better than those countries that locked down, then we will have some evidence that the lockdowns were not needed. That will be painful to admit, but we need to be open to it. That’s listening. That’s being open to reality.

2. Humility. We need to have a high value of others, even those who disagree with us. This is especially true of those who are in authority or those who have expertise. That doesn’t mean we should agree with everything they say. We just owe them respect and honor.

In these times, we as Christians are going to have plenty of opportunity to show honor to authorities with whom we disagree. Here’s a couple of examples. Gov. Ron DeSantis of Florida decided to open the beaches last week. Many people were outraged and attacked him because they were scared of the virus. Gov. Gretchen Whitmer gave quite a few regulations in her state that many people thought were too restrictive or even unconstitutional. People were outraged and attacked her because they feared an excessive lockdown. Now, you may disagree with those governors, or you may really like what they did. You may feel the need to protest, or you may feel the need to cheer. Both are fine, but either way, we have an obligation to disagree respectfully with everyone we disagree with but especially governing authorities.

A classic statement of the faith, The Heidelberg Catechism, captures this well. It asks, “What is God’s will for you in the fifth commandment [“Honor your father and your mother”]?” That I honor, love, and be loyal to my father and mother and all those in authority over me; that I submit myself with proper obedience to all their good teaching and discipline; and also that I be patient with their failings—for through them God chooses to rule us.” We can show by patient and respectful honoring of our leaders that we honor God. We have that opportunity in this time.

3. Patience. “Love is patient.” Says the Apostle Paul in his famous chapter on love (1 Corinthians 13). Patience with other people recognizes that people are at different places. We come to different conclusions based on different experiences at different times and at different rates. That is O.K. Patience is a willingness to allow for this difference and accept others where they are.

In 1 Thessalonians 5:14, the Apostle Paul has a great statement on the different places people are. “And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone.” Notice that he distinguishes the different ways that people can struggle. He even says you have to warn people sometimes. However, he says that with everyone, “be patient.” That’s what we need right now, too, patience, to allow people to work through these two scary things in different ways and at different paces.

4. Service. One problem with getting too focused on our fears, whatever they are, is that we can miss opportunities to serve those around us. Excessive anxiety can keep us from loving service. When we can overcome our fears and anxieties (not deny them!), then we can move outward in service. It also works the other way. When we move outward, it can help us overcome our anxieties.

The Christians in the early Church in the Roman Empire were well known for this. They went and served those dying of the plague when no one else would. We may not do that without taking some precautions that they did not know to take, but could we be known for that today? They will know you are Christians by your love, Jesus says. If we keep asking, who needs love? Who needs care? Who can I serve? What are my opportunities? It will keep us focused on the right things.

What a powerful thing it is to see Christians in a variety of ways stepping up to serve the people of their church and those around them. We need to lean into this in this time. We have a unique opportunity to show the power of God’s love in the face of fear through serving others.

Conclusion

These are scary times. It’s OK to be scared, but, as Christians, we can’t let it overwhelm us or keep us from loving other people well.

I commend to you listening, humility, patience, and service as four characteristics that can help us navigate a time when there are a lot of scared people. It’s not easy. The fear takes hold, and we want to run away or lash out.

But we’re not alone in trying to do this well. We have the Spirit of the risen Christ with us. We have the Church. We have innumerable examples of believers and Jesus Christ Himself who’ve walked through the toughest times and loved God and others well through them. That is our heritage, power, and opportunity.

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How to Share Your Faith

Me Talking with Students at the Embassy in Pigeon Forge
In their Book Good Faith, David Kinnaman and Gabe Lyons present statistics that demonstrate that Christians in the U.S. feel very hesitant to share their faith. This fits with my own experience. People are less likely to talk about their faith than ever before. But this does not need to be the case. Here’s why.

Why are people hesitant about sharing their faith? People are hesitant about pushy salespeople, whether they are selling Mormonism or a new car. We’ve all had experiences of salespeople that made us uncomfortable or got us to purchase things we don’t want. We don’t like those experiences, and we don’t want to be that person. It’s easy to think of sharing your faith like that.

Another reason is that we lack examples of good engagement on controversial issues. Most of our experience of engagement on these issues is from Twitter or Facebook. These venues do not encourage us with examples of productive engagement on any issue, let alone religion or politics.

Finally, people lack positive examples. People in the church can experience those who are obnoxious about theological issues or who accept everything in the name of loving people. They may not have experienced someone who can engage with love and respect and yet hold to their convictions with clarity and grace.

I am no expert on this topic, and I am often afraid of talking to people about anything, let alone my faith. I have an aversion to being pushy or high pressure. At the same time, I want to share my faith. My relationship with God is central to my life. I believe that my views on these matters are true, important, and helpful.

So, how do I do it? How do I deal with that tension? For me, the key is “honor and respect.”

This begins by valuing people because they are people. God values people, and I believe that I should, too. If I don’t value people enough to connect with them, then I will have no opportunity to share my faith. On the other side, if I only care about people if they agree with me, then I will not communicate love the way God wants me to.

To me, this means being a good listener. We should take an interest in what people think about life and faith. We can ask them questions: how does God fit into your life? What do you think of religion? How do you make sense of life? How do you find the resources to go forward? Then, we need to listen, really listen, to the answers.

Once someone has shared with us, then we can ask them if we can share our answers to these questions. If they say, “yes” (which they will probably do, if they feel listened to), then we can share the substance of our faith. If they say, “no,” then that’s OK. We have heard someone’s perspective and hopefully learned something.

Miroslav Volf in his book Flourishing noted that the Golden Rule applies to sharing our faith. If we want to share our faith with others, then we should let them share their faith with us.

If we begin this way, then we will find many doors open up for us. The key is to honor and love others and to be ready to listen.

I have had the opportunity to do this over the past couple of years with foreign students who have come to our area to work. I have a natural curiosity about these folks coming to our country. I love to hear about their country. I have also felt free to ask them about their religion and what it means to them. Whenever I have had occasion to share my faith, I have always told them that I would be interested in hearing about theirs. The result has been good. They have ended up asking me many questions about Christianity. I have had some wonderful times of discussion and ample opportunity to share my faith. It always begins with my curiosity and interest in them as human beings and their unique experiences.

We do need to speak to share our faith. However, as the Apostle James admonished us: “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19). This is a way of sharing our faith that honors our faith and the relationship.